My name is Tony and I'll be getting married to my fiancee in three months time. In a bid to win her love, I had to lie to her about some personal issues in my life in the beginning of our relationship. My intention was to tell her the truth after we have gotten married. By then she would have no choice than to accept her fate. But as fate would have it, I gave my life to christ few days ago and my conscience wont allow me rest.
My soul is troubled and I'm beginning to lose my sleep.
Here is a list of the things I lied about
I run a joint venture with a friend of mine in which my friend has a larger share of this venture but I made her believe otherwise.
I am a school drop out but I made her believe I'm a University graduate. I told her I started my business due to the fact that I couldn't get a good job on time which is not true. I did not complete my university education at all.
I have an elder brother abroad who I am helping to build a house but I made her believe the house is mine.
I have a child from one of my past relationships but I haven't told her yet about it.
ITWAB readers, do you think it is wise for me to tell her the truth yet, what if she calls off the wedding. How will I bear the shame. Will she accept and still love me for who I am? I am so confused. I did what I did for the sake of the love I have for her. If I told her the truth from the get go, she may not have accepted to go out with me. Please, help me ! My wedding is in three months time, I do not want to lose this girl. Your candid advice is needed urgently ....
My Advice: Mr Tony, You don't win a woman's love through lies. She will find out sooner or later. Its better you tell her now. Do not wait till you are married. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. I'll advice you to do this, on the day you will tell her, make sure nobody is with you. Prostrate to tell her the truth, sincerely and ask for her forgiveness.
She will forgive you if she truly loves you but she may reject you at first. If she rejects you, allow her to heal. It hurts you know, especially when the one you truly love betrays you through lies.
And if she decides to break the relationship permanently, LET HER GO! Better women will come along. You've learnt your lesson. Change your ways and ask for God's forgiveness. He hates a lying tongue. You can't force the hands of love. Good luck to you...
love you for who you are? who are you? you are just a pack of lies that would come crashing soon like a pack of cards.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha u say wat?? Abeg wait make i finish my laff... hehehehe
ReplyDeleteoya nw lemme advice, what u did wasnt lying, it ws deceit... Fundamental deceit, nd wen d 'supposed foundation' is no longer their d building crumbles...
U lied abt what u earn wen u actually earn half of wat she does, despite what u might read online, women dont generaly luv to marry men who earn lesser than dey do nt to talk of 50% lesser, because of d inferiority complex such men re prone to in d face of their wives, nt 2 mention dt she has to b sure u can take kia of d whole family(even if she'll still contribute)...
U lied abt being a graduate, well that is just hilarious n then d 'building project' lol... Not to talk of the part where u re a deceiver wit a bordersome low self esteem n d ensuing trust issues, i mean for all she knows u cld hv 2 kids outside too... U cld tell her d truth buh i dont blive she is sticking arnd so u might also strt searching buh then again it depends on ur fiancee i mean wat kind of a woman doesnt find out abt ur actual salary or a near-estimate n weda u re a graduate, hmm nt even d basic checks n she accepted a ring...
She must be in a haste... Or she might already knows n doesnt really care buh she is waiting to see wat u'll actually do
i dislyk men lik u gosh! Must u lie to make her love u? Daz y i dnt believe u pipu. Bunch of disgusting liars. Tufiaa
ReplyDeleteHow can she love you for who you are, when she doesn't know who you truly are.
ReplyDeleteshe knows who he is. she sees him everyday. if she cant fall in love with that then she is not after who he is but what he is. what he is hiding from her is not who he is but what he is. big difference. women are usually after what you are and not who you are so you have to lie about what you are so they can get to find out who you are. its all a game for those who are bothered to play it. but dont blame the man for playing a game the woman created
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