The True Nature Of Men Women Need To Know, This is a Must Read For TheWomen !

      

A guy shared this on Nairaland forum and I think it is only right for me to share it because I found it facinating and it will also help our ladies out there in undertsanding the true nature of their man.

Pls Take Your time to read this

This is based on my own experience as a man, I didn't copy it from anywhere so anybody is free to air there view or counter me.

Now there are many things ladies don't know about us guys. This has led to a lot of misconception and disenchantment from both sex. I read a lot of comments here and I realise that most ladies don't know anything about the makeup of a man. I believe that the ladies will learn a lot if they realize some basic truth about us.

1.Men don't want only sex from you: many ladies believe or think that the only thing guys want from them is sex. This is why they go into a relationship with that resource only as what they are bringing on board hoping that the guy will do anything for them as long as he's getting sex. 

This is wrong. Men may like sex but it is not the only thing they like or want in a relationship. A guy needs a lady who will understand him, who can stand by him and encourage him to reach his full potential, who can spur him on and always remind him that he can make it no matter all odds. 

A lady who can come into his life and put things that were wrong right, that can get him to be organised and focused, that can walk with him on the street, that can smile and laugh at his jokes, that can play with him and have a good time with him, that can love his family and respect him as a man. Some things are just more important to guys than sex

2. It takes effort to woo a lady: ladies if you don't know it, know it now! It is not easy for a guy to stop a lady and share how he feels about her. It takes a lot of guts and also humility to do that. Men are naturally egoistic and don't like anything that puts them down or make them look like they're begging especially when it comes to ladies. Understand that this is natural and not that they enjoy acting that way, it's a result of both nature and nurture.

Before a guy approaches you as a lady, many things must have gone through his mind. How best to make the move, what to say, how to say it, how to smile and all that. This could take minutes or days or weeks or even months depending on the guy involved and the urgency. Some guys go through sleepless nights thinking about how to approach a particular lady, it is not easy. 

And atimes, the lady in  question will still turn them down and once this happens, it becomes more difficult for him to repeat the cycle again. So ladies, when a guy approaches you please, don't put him down like you usually do. Find a way to help preserve his confidence and also pay him back for his effort because it takes effort. If you don't like him, turn him down softly!

3. Guys are more emotional than you think: forget all the macho and strong man that most guys put on the surface. Guys are much more soft and emotional than they tend to present on the outer surface, even more than the ladies atimes. We cry, we fall in love, we get depressed atimes, we get frustrated. And the worst is that, we hardly show it or speak out for people to help. Because of upbringing where guys are expected to absorb tension, we just bottle a lot of things up and keep dying inside. It takes a wise lady to unbottle these tensions and bring out the best in a guy.

4.Guys like spending money on ladies: Yes I said so! On the right ladies though. Once a guy loves you, he won't mind spending his last kobo on you. A guy can buy his girl Mr Biggs and go home to soak garri. It's not becos he's mumu or anything like that, it's just how he values the lady in question. Guys love with their resources and their whole heart. Unfortunately, many ladies believe that a guy who gives to a lady like that is a fool or mumu. 

That's why many of us now withdrew, because one of the worst things you can ever do to a guy is to tamper with his ego, to make him feel like a fool when he was loving you. That is why a guy can love his girl and give her everything even while abandoning his own family and siblings.

5. Guys love sex: yes this is true. Guys love sex not because they just feel like loving it, but because they are wired to love it. A healthy man gets erection even when he doesn't want to. Even when a man is sleeping, he gets erection without realising it. Just seeing a lady he likes can give a man erection and that is how God made it. It is just that, some guys do a good job of controlling it than others and you must respect those that do so cos it is not easy. So when next you want to know why guys like sex, I suggest you ask God!

6.Guys are easy to manipulate: guys feel dat it is their duty to help ladies. Most guys would fight their fellow men just to defend a lady. I once saw a guy slap his fellow guy just becos he said he would slap a lady! Guys are always the one who compromise for ladies and it is natural. Even in the family, guys always feel it is their duty to protect their sisters. It is easy to know what a guy likes and doesn't like so it makes it easy to control and manipulate them by the ladies. Once you give a guy what he likes, he will do anything for you.

I will stop here to allow people contribute...

Courtesy: NL

I agree with this guy 100 percent, what do you guys think ? Would love to hear your views